Understanding adolescents through a developmental framework …

Friends and a social life becomes all consuming during adolescence. This doesn’t mean the family is being rejected. Instead, teenagers are simply transitioning through an intense period of change. Teens need the family life to remain a solid & secure homebase, so that they can return to it for comfort and healing when the peer world becomes too intense or overwhelming.

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Once a teen’s behavior can be viewed through a developmental lens, you can depersonalize it. It is an understandable and necessary stage in their journey to reaching their own, full potential as a young adult.

Understanding the natural developmental path a child, youth, or teen is on, the better equipped we are to support them through their departure from childhood, and guide them in exerting their independence and in an appropriate and respectful way. 

http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/parenting-teens-understanding-behavior-0225137